Powerful framing on how "hidden programming" locks us into reactive patterns. The observation about adapting personality to please parents early on then living with those patterns unconsciously is spot-on. What's intresting is how anger often feels justified in the moment, which makes it even harder to recognize as a pattern rather than a reasonable response. I've noticed similar stuff where what feels like reacting to external events is really just old wiring kicking in automaticlly.
Powerful framing on how "hidden programming" locks us into reactive patterns. The observation about adapting personality to please parents early on then living with those patterns unconsciously is spot-on. What's intresting is how anger often feels justified in the moment, which makes it even harder to recognize as a pattern rather than a reasonable response. I've noticed similar stuff where what feels like reacting to external events is really just old wiring kicking in automaticlly.
Thanks for your comment. I think that's true - we think we are angry because of one thing but it is really due to something else in our distant past!